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Learn How To Become A Success From Youtube Sensation Lilly Singh: Vision Boards, Breaking The Rules, And More
If you’ve ever dreamed of being a YouTube sensation, then Lilly Singh’s book How to Be A Bawse is the perfect guide for you.
In it, she offers her advice and tips on becoming successful, not just on YouTube but in life in general.
She shares her ideologies and outlines the actionable steps one can take to achieve their goals and become who they want to be.
In this book, you’ll learn about creating a vision board, why sometimes it’s beneficial to be the ‘dumbest’ person in the room, and when it might be a good idea to break the rules.
It’s full of incredible insights that can help you unleash your inner bawse!
Developing Self-Awareness: The Key To Becoming Friends With Your Own Mind
We all have times where our minds can be our biggest obstacles and yet they can also be our most valuable assets.
In order to unlock the true power of your mind, it is important to develop self-awareness.
The author of ‘How to be a Bawse’ explains that the first step in achieving this is recognizing all of the intricate layers surrounding your inner issues.
You often need to peel back several layers before you can get to the heart of the matter at hand, and then you need to be honest with yourself about what you find.
The second step is conquering any thoughts or emotions that are having a negative impact on your life.
One way to do this is by trying not to take things personally if someone has made a hurtful remark towards you and try instead see it as an indication of their own personal struggles — ones that have nothing to do with you directly.
Additionally, remind yourself that happiness is always better than fear when approaching new things, and when something makes you happy, it’s always worth pursuing further.
By learning more about yourself and being mindful of how you think and react to situations, it can help transform your mind into a powerful ally.
Becoming friends with your mind through improving your self-awareness is one way for you to unlock its true potential!
Strengthen Your Mind With Self-Control, Goal-Setting, And Meditation
It’s no secret that if you want to be successful, you have to train your mind.
Just like training in the gym gives you physical strength, training your mental muscles gives you the mental strength you need to achieve big goals – and How To Be A Bawse provides three methods that can help with this.
First, set goals for yourself and challenge yourself to reach them.
By pushing yourself further than before and setting more difficult tasks, you are training your mind for success.
Second, reward yourself each time you meet a goal.
It doesn’t have to be something expensive – even treating yourself to dinner or renting a movie is enough.
And finally, challenge yourself by breaking bad habits – like nail biting or procrastination – and rewarding yourself when you’ve reached 24 hours without committing said habit again.
The book also emphasizes the importance of taking breaks from it all – because sometimes all it takes is a moment of pause or meditation to restore our mental energy needed for success.
You don’t need an expensive guru or ritualistic practices: just find a meditative practice that fits into your lifestyle and enjoy its benefits!
This could range from deep breathing while smiling with eyes closed in front of a candle, to simply sitting still and appreciating your surroundings and the positive things in life.
With these methods shared in How To Be A Bawse, we can all train our minds for success!
Overcoming Fear And Distraction To Achieve Your Goals
If you want to achieve any kind of success, you have to learn how to block out fear and distractions.
This can be a difficult feat, as the author has experienced with her shoot with Seth Rogen and James Franco.
What could have been an overwhelming moment was turned into a 45-minute success simply because she knew how to commit and focus on her goal.
The key is learning how to cast aside your fears in critical moments.
The author likens it to taking off a jacket when needed – something that helps her stay on course even when the going gets tough.
Having a vision is also essential for attaining dreams.
By creating a vision board that illustrates your goals, and keeping it somewhere within sight, you’re constantly reminded of what it is that you want to achieve.
Remember too, that your vision board is like one of your own children; if necessary, make sacrifices in order to keep it safe and nurture it so that it may come true.
If we take the example of the author again, she was committed to becoming an internet sensation and did whatever she could in order for this dream to take flight.
Dreams can only be attained if you’re fully committed and have a vision – both of which are tools required for paving the way towards success.
Be Prepared For A Long Journey: How Setting Deadlines And Building A Foundation Of Knowledge Can Lead To Success
The success you’re eyeing up may seem like it’s just out of reach, but with the right foundations in place and a long-term perspective, anything is possible.
As author Lilly Singh states in her book How to Be a Bawse, Rome wasn’t built in a day and an empire’s foundation takes a while to build.
Quickfire attempts at ‘going viral’ may offer quick bursts of fame and attention, but without dedication and hard work this path can often die away.
Instead, focus on establishing your knowledge base, toolsets and personal skillset – things that can be achieved over time through investment into yourself as well as support systems that enable you to succeed.
Through the journey you will develop insight into how stress can inhibit performance without becoming bogged down by it – however taking on too little stress has its pitfalls with procrastination waiting around every corner!
Be sure set sensible deadlines for yourself – these can help give structure to situations and impel action rather than letting goals remain idle which, as we all know from experience, can make us feel stagnant or unproductive.
Lilly shared her dream of being an actress so she set herself the deadline of moving to Los Angeles by December 1st 2015 which eventually lead her one step closer to achieving her goal.
The point is clear: success requires commitment and when it comes down to it development is very much about playing the long game – not looking for the quick fix.
The Key To Success: Ignore Unnecessary Validation And Surround Yourself With People Smarter Than You
If you want to be successful in life, it’s essential to surround yourself with the right people who will help you reach your goals.
Seeking out those who are more experienced and knowledgeable than you can challenge, intimidate and teach you – meaning you’ll learn so much more.
It’s important to leave your ego behind and accept that there are people out there who know a lot more than you.
Alongside seeking out the right people, it’s also important to distance yourself from unconstructive validation.
Having too many compliments can often lead to complacency and a lack of motivation, as we no longer feel the need for others to validate us.
To avoid this, try looking for validation when deserved, such as after achieving a major milestone or checking something off your list, but don’t overindulge in recognition that does nothing to further our ambitions!
This is something author and entrepreneur Lilly Singh follows closely; her mother rarely offers validation but instead acknowledges her success simply by saying ‘that’s really good’!
It works for someone like Snoop Dogg too – he credits his success over 25 years in the rap industry due being “the dumbest person on team”.
By surrounding ourselves with the right people and carefully choosing when to allow validation into our lives, we can become those bawse bosses just like Lilly Singh and Snoop Dogg!
Creating A Powerful Presence: How To Differentiate Yourself From The Crowd And Gain The Attention Of Your Heroes
If you want to stand out from the crowd, particularly in the success-driven world, the key is to differentiate yourself, first and foremost.
To do that, you need to break the rules when it is necessary – but only for the right reasons.
This was what exactly what the author did in order to meet her childhood hero; actor and wrestler Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson.
Knowing how inappropriate it is for celebrities to message each other directly, she couldn’t get a cup of coffee with The Rock through a simple text message – even after her team tried their hardest.
Eventually she decided to take matter into her own hands, and texted him against Hollywood’s wishes.
To everyone’s surprise (including herself!) he replied promptly and they met up soon after.
Another powerful way of standing out is by being fully present during pivotal moments such as interviews, meetings and networking events.
The author had a great example of this during an interview with a YouTube-channel management company.
During the interview, instead of stating what she could hear about the company from them, she turned around the question with a twinkle in her eye – asking instead what they could do for her!
By doing this she gained full presence in every moment during their conversation; smiling when appropriate such as when hearing someone’s name for the first time rather just being pleasant or likeable per se.
In turn this left an impression on their CEO who said ‘she was an absolute star’ later that day through email.
To successfully dominate any environment you enter requires strong presence so use both tools discussed above; focus on your surroundings taking in all of its energy whilst also remaining just being 100% genuine honest self; then watch your success skyrocket!
How To Develop Positive Thinking And Establish Clear Values For A More Meaningful Life
Success comes from believing in yourself and setting firm, positive values.
To become a bawse in life, you have to train your mind to look for the good in others, and to speak positively about them instead of engaging in negative conversations.
Furthermore, it’s important to create a personal manifesto with your own set of values to live by and make sure that these values are followed.
It’s easy to forget this advice when dealing with the stressful aspects of life but taking a few moments each day to reflect on your values can really help ground you along your path.
Additionally, take some time weekly to sit down and read through your manifesto so that you constantly keep those values at the forefront of your mind.
By doing so, you will be able drill positivity and strong values into your head thus becoming more successful as individual!
Being Kind Can Pay Off: Here’s How To Harness The Power Of Niceness
Being kind and promoting what you love can create opportunities for change.
The author of How to Be a Bawse learned this firsthand when she encountered Justin Bieber’s manager at a YouTube party.
In an effort to convey her admiration, the author decided to approach him and express her sentiments – something that made Scooter Braun’s day, despite having had a challenging one.
The next day he posted an Instagram picture thanking the author and has since supported her career by re-posting her videos.
In addition to being nice, the author also took it upon herself to be proactive in order to make an impression on those around her.
She makes sure she speaks with everyone when shooting a video, and follows up with an email thread singing praises for everyone involved in the shoot.
This tips off of kindness has earned her incredible recognition in return.
Finally, if one wants to bring about lasting change it is important to promote what we love instead of bashing on that which we hate.
When asked about any drama between two female artists Katy Perry and Taylor Swift, she avoided stoking up further conflict but instead praised both women for their strength as admirable figures among young girls.
By being kind and promoting strong values, not only does one gain respect from those around them but also more importantly gets the chance for creating lasting change in their communities and beyond!
Wrap Up
The main takeaway from How to Be a Bawse by Lilly Singh is that success and confidence can only be achieved by having a strong foundation of hard work, discipline and values.
It’s essential for us to train our minds to function in an optimal way for lasting success.
To get there, we need to ensure that our minds, bodies and souls are all closely aligned.
Asking the right questions like “am I doing things that I feel guilty about?” or “am I failing to follow through on my commitments?” can help you determine if everything’s in sync.
By taking time to realign your team and make sure your thoughts, actions and emotions are all working in tandem, you’ll be well on your way towards becoming a bawse!
