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Make Life A Game: Exploring The Two Different Ways To View And Play Life As A Big Game
Do you think of life as a game? You may not realize it, but all of life can be seen as one big game.
It is different from the board games you used to play as a child, because there are two ways life can be played: with finite games with fixed rules and objectives, or with infinite games which are never-ending and have no boundaries.
Finite games demand that you set clear goals and boundaries in order to be successful, while infinite games involve ongoing risks and rewards without definite endings.
In both cases, the way you choose to play will have significant impacts on your life – from your career choices to romantic relationships.
By reviewing this book summary, you can discover how all of life can be seen as one big game – then make conscious decisions about how to play it.
Find out why some people are obsessed with titles, why colleagues must win each argument, and why your concept of time might need recalibration.
With this knowledge in hand, dive into the biggest game of the them all: Life!
The Contrast Between Finite And Infinite Games: Understanding Life As A Player Of Either
It’s easy to see that almost every part of our lives can be seen as either a finite or an infinite game.
Finite games are those with specific temporal, spatial and numerical boundaries, where rules have been predetermined and agreed upon by the players before the game begins and the aim is to win.
After the game is over, it’s done for good.
Examples of finite games include children’s hide-and-seek and general elections.
In contrast, infinite games are played without any restrictions; anyone can join in anytime and anywhere with no expectation that the game ever has to end.
The goal is to keep playing rather than winning, like with music composition where new composers can always write inspiring new pieces.
No matter what kind of game we’re playing – whether it’s a business meeting, a sports match or even just interacting with friends – we’re always engaged in either a finite or an infinite game.
The Boundaries Of Time: How Finite And Infinite Games Differ
Finite players have no control over the time or number of players that are involved in the game they are playing.
This is because finite games are regulated by an audience that dictates when the game starts, who plays and how long it will last.
This lack of freedom means the finite player must work within the allotted time set by their audience; for example, finishing an exam in two hours or meeting a deadline set by their employer.
On the other hand, infinite players are not limited by any external restrictions as infinite games have no boundaries.
The infinite player has complete control over how much time they spend playing – or, to put it another way – each moment brings a new beginning with new possibilities for them to explore and develop.
So rather than consuming time like finite players do, infinite players fill it with play, working until they decide to stop – regardless of any externally imposed time limits.
The Difference Between Finite And Infinite Players: Looking Towards The Future For A Bright Vision
For finite players, society is about titles, recognition and material property.
They see it as a collection of finite games in which each person is out to win and be awarded a title.
This title then serves as proof that they have won the game and it makes them harder to challenge in any other game they choose to play.
On the other hand, infinite players don’t care about titles or property.
Instead, they look at society as a constantly evolving culture that can always be developed further.
They don’t focus on previous victories but instead direct their attention to the future and the possibilities that lie ahead.
So rather than looking for an ultimate solution to any problem, they strive to create a vision together with others that will help make positive changes within their community.
The Difference Between Finite And Infinite Players: Winning Versus Enjoying The Process
Finite players strive to dominate through taking control of the situation, while infinite players strive to coexist by playing.
For finite players, everything is a game that they need to win in order to gain supremacy.
They seething conversations as an opportunity to prove their worth and verify their superiority.
Likewise, in sexual relationships, they aim at taking complete possession of their partner through elaborate courting rituals and concealing their own desires until victory is achieved.
On the other hand, the ultimate objective for infinite players isn’t winning but simply playing – regardless of who might emerge victorious at the end.
Conversations are opportunities for discourse and exploration instead of less than chances of demonstrating knowledge or asserting one’s beliefs as truths.
In addition, sexuality is about understanding themselves and each other above attaining any material goals related to satisfying physical pleasures or completing biological objectives such as conceiving children.
The Weight Of The Past: How Finite And Infinite Players View Life Differently
Finite players are a product of their past, unable to free themselves from the roles that were given to them in the past.
They often feel compelled to prove themselves, and no matter how successful they may become feel like the same losers as before because their motivation is rooted in the past.
Infinite players, on the other hand, do not allow their pasts to influence who they are or where they go; instead, they acknowledge their uniqueness and use it to liberate themselves and shape who they are today.
Infinite players recognize that even if they had been born into difficult circumstances, it doesn’t have to determine the rest of their lives; an infinite game is wide open with endless possibilities for them to explore and take advantage of.
The Choice Is Yours: Remember That Participation In Every Game Is Voluntary
When it comes to Finite and Infinite Games, you have the power to choose what kind of game you want to play and what kind of player you want to be.
It’s true that finite players often feel they have no choice but to play the game, because they are chosen externally, such as needing to pass a bar exam in order to become a lawyer.
But at the end of the day, no one can force you into any game – participation is voluntary.
Likewise, finite players are expected to play the game by certain rules, such as going to court for criminal cases or attending meetings when working as a lawyer.
However, this doesn’t mean that you must always abide by these rules – at any time, you may choose instead opt out of the game altogether.
It’s also important not to get too caught up in the roles of finite games.
We all put on various masks in order to fit into each role properly – like lawyers trying their best to appear wise and just while working – but sometimes those masks can go too far and we forget that we can always escape from it if we so wish.
Give yourself room for freedom; don’t let yourself be bound by obligations or manipulated by others’ guises.
In conclusion, remember that you have the power and freedom to choose which game you want to take part in and what kind of player you want to be.
Don’t get caught up with expectations created by external forces; always stay true your own path as a gamer.
Wrap Up
At the end of Finite and Infinite Games by James P.
Carse, the overall message is that life should be seen as an infinite game.
Playing with this mindset means focusing on growth and possibility, rather than trying to just win or lose.
It can also create room for multiple, positive outcomes in any situation.
This book has shown us that life does not have to revolve around a single, final outcome; there are some games that last forever, and we can choose which ones we want to play.
Whether you’re looking for greater success or more meaningful relationships, the knowledge from this book will help you determine how best to play your game of life.
