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The Pursuit Of Happiness Is Impossible: Why We Need To Rethink Our Hopes For The Future
For many of us, our idea of the future is filled with hopes and dreams of success and a fulfilling life.
But in reality, this focus on hope can actually get in the way of us living a more satisfying life.
In his book Everything Is F*cked, author Mark Manson suggests that this future-focused mentality has caused a rise in depression and anxiety, as people search for an unrealistic ideal that they cannot reach.
Manson argues that rather than placing our hope somewhere out of reach, we should turn inward and cultivate positive thinking habits and traits such as courage, honesty and humility.
He highlights the importance of staying focused on what is happening right now in the present moment—rather than wasting energy on hoping for a perfect tomorrow—in order to find true happiness.
At the same time, Manson warns against relying too much on comfort or so-called “life hacks”, which can prevent us from achieving real growth or development.
He ultimately invites readers to accept reality no matter how hard it may seem, noting that this ultimately leads to greater satisfaction in life.
Hope Is A Powerful Source Of Strength That Can Help Us Overcome Even The Most Difficult Of Times
Hope has been a powerful driving force for many people in difficult or trying times.
It can be seen in stories like that of Witold Pilecki, who fought against the Nazis and then later against the Communist forces, even while he was facing his own death.
His actions were fueled by one hope: to see an independent Poland.
But in the modern world, when life is perhaps better than ever, hope may not be as effective in motivating people and inspiring action.
As human rights and standards of living steadily rise worldwide, there is less of a sense of hope and more of a fear of having something to lose.
And this fear seems to be contributing to increasing rates of anxiety and depression across the US as people worry about losing their good fortune or position in security.
Ultimately, this shows us that hope is most powerful when things are uncertain – it can push us to make needed changes and take action when difficult times are upon us.
But we must also recognize that it doesn’t always work well in times when so much has been achieved already.
The Importance Of Engaging Both The Thinking And Feeling Brains When Making Decisions
The classic assumption that the rational and logical mind is more capable of making better decisions than our emotional brain is wrong.
This conclusion is drawn from the case of Elliot, someone who had a baseball-sized tumor removed from the frontal lobe of his brain which also removed his capacity for emotion but not rationality.
Despite having full access to logical reason, Elliot made poor decisions such as going to buy a stapler instead of an important work meeting and skipping his kid’s baseball game to watch TV – demonstrating how clear thinking isn’t enough for decision-making.
Scientists “checked” his emotional responses when shown horrifying war photos of dead children – though he failed to react in an expected manner, even he acknowledged that he should’ve felt something.
The Four Laws That Explain Why Hope Can Lead To Unhappiness
Mark Manson’s bestselling book Everything Is F*cked argues that our emotions are governed by four laws, and they can make hope a losing proposition.
According to the author, these laws explain why hopefulness can so often lead to unhappiness.
The first law of emotion states that there is an equal and opposite emotional reaction for every action taken.
This means that if you experience something bad, like a punch to the face, it will automatically trigger a strong emotional response – a feeling of hurt and anger that makes you feel like justice has not been done.
If no solution is found to rectify the situation then your brain will try to make a moral shift where it adapts to the pain as normal – which has dire consequences for those in abusive situations.
The second law stipulates that your self-worth is equal to the sum of your emotions over time.
It encourages people who have endured hard times or unpleasant experiences over long periods of time to recognize their worth independent of such events as opposed to seeing them as part and parcel with life itself.
Abandon Hope, Embrace Amor Fati: Nietzsche’S Call To Be Present And Accept Life As It Is
Mark Manson’s “Everything Is F*cked” book summary makes it clear that all belief systems create problems and ultimately become corrupted by the people behind them.
No matter how sincere or noble their intentions may be, these concepts can’t exist on their own because they rely on rejecting something else as “bad” for a person to have hope.
As Friedrich Nietzsche said, this leads to more unhappiness and conflict.
It is better then to accept life and death on its own terms.
This can help us move beyond our dependencies on various belief systems and instead focus on the amazingness of all that’s around us now.
This approach has been given the name amor fati, which translates to “love one’s fate”.
Such an attitude can help us accept life for what it truly is, both good and bad, rather than searching for false hope that only brings further suffering.
Kant’S Formula For Humanity: Doing The Right Thing Even When It’S Difficult
Immanuel Kant’s philosophy resonates strongly with Nietzsche’s amor fati in terms of how one should live and act.
Both suggest that we as individuals not just focus on pursuing pleasure, but also strive to act out of principle rather than expect a reward.
In his writings Kant proposed a simple formula for humanity: “Act that you use Humanity, whether in your own person or in the person of any other, always at the same time an end, never merely as a means.” What this means is that we shouldn’t engage in transactional behavior – be kind because it is the right thing to do, not because you expect something back.
It also suggests that decisions should always be followed on their own merit rather than put into motion based on expectations; adults understand these merits and act accordingly.
Doing things ‘just because’ even when they may be difficult aligns itself with amor fati; doing what needs to be done regardless of the outcome or effect it has on oneself.
Kant’s proposed formula for humanity therefore complements Nietzsche’s amor fati not only in principles but also in its application – both require individuals to act without expecting anything in return and accept any challenges presented before them as part of life.
Their philosophies together set a solid foundation for leading a peaceful life full of integrity and meaning.
The Danger Of Pursuing Happiness: Why Satisfaction Derails Democracy
In an era in which it’s easy to get swept up in our own pursuit of happiness, Winston Churchill’s warning rings true now more than ever – democracy is the best form of government, but it comes at risk when people become too preoccupied with self-gratification.
That’s because this drive toward individual well-being renders citizens ill-suited for the struggles and nuances that democracy requires.
After all, part of making a successful democracy entails dealing with the hardships and viewpoints that come with having different political opinions.
And even if we ignore the demand for tolerance of opposing ideas in democracy, our attempts at attaining pure happiness still prove to be futile.
Studies show that while we may feel an initial surge when life gets better, ultimately our baseline mood remains unchanged.
And even if we had every unpleasant thing wiped away from our lives, research has revealed that instead of us actually being happier – we’d just shift our standards for what would qualify as happy and convince ourselves everything was alright.
This phenomenon is known as the Blue Dot Effect.
What Winston Churchill warned about is evident – continually striving for personal satisfaction over a sense of collective responsibility can be destructive for democracy.
But more importantly, it’s also becoming increasingly clear that pursuing bliss isn’t really attainable anyway.
How Advertising Targets The Emotional Brain And In-Demand Innovation Becomes Dangerous Diversion
As nations become more developed, their populations often experience a shift from innovation to diversion.
This shift is detrimental to the collective sense of freedom and well-being that come with increased economic growth.
At some point, instead of innovating products to make lives easier, companies start preying on consumer insecurities by selling them items that they don’t need.
Advertising targets the emotional brain rather than the thinking brain and encourages people to purchase goods meant to make them feel better – but not necessarily improve their quality of life.
Similarly, technological advancements have become widely available, but instead of emphasizing true freedom, they can create compulsive behaviors which diminish our overall freedom.
The cycle of consumption perpetuates as we become addicted to diversions like social media or creature comforts offered by technological advances.
What’s been seen in developing nations everywhere is that after a certain tipping point has passed, innovation shifts away from true progress and moves into mere distraction and diversion – equating to less—not more—freedom for all.
Hoping For A Better Tomorrow: Could Ai Be The Answer?
In 2018, Google’s artificial intelligence (AI) program, AlphaZero, stunned the world when it defeated Stockfish, the reigning champion of chess at the time.
Even more astonishing was that AlphaZero had never played a single game of chess prior to that match!
This demonstrated that AI algorithms are incredibly powerful and have already started to infiltrate many aspects of our day-to-day life.
While some experts have warned about the potential dangers posed by AI, there is reason to believe that AI has the potential to make our lives better.
Unlike humans, algorithms are extremely logical and efficient.
While we still rely on flawed decision-making processes motivated by self-interests and greed, AI could help us finally shift towards a “something greater” – one rooted in rationality and compassion that guides us away from ideological and religious discord towards a brighter tomorrow.
Even if bringing about this change may be difficult to imagine, it’s not impossible with the help of AI algorithms running things as they deem fit.
Wrap Up
The conclusion to Everything is F*cked by Mark Manson is that hope can be a double-edged sword, as it can both make us vulnerable to disappointment and keep us locked in cycles of unhappiness.
Instead of grasping at hope, focusing on becoming virtuous people who accept life’s difficult truths and rise above our challenges is the key to happiness.
To achieve this goal, one should embrace uncomfortable truths through meditation.
Meditation helps us acknowledge those hard truths and come to terms with our mortality and the imperfections of life so that we can better handle the blows that life throws at us.
